[wylde1]

I'm not gonna restate what everyones said already, there's some sound advice in there. But I'll just throw out some experiences I've had. This one really changed my life.

I was seeing a girl that I pretty much thought was the greatest thing in the world. Not trying to toot my own horn, but she was smokin' hot (actually modeled for Ford modelleing agency in toronto). and we got along great at first... somewhere down the line (mabye 5-6 months) it was like a switch flipped and she said she wanted to go back to australia (she was from there originally) and didn't want to be in a relationship. I was totally confused and totally hung up on her. Made all the wrong moves, called her all the time, did things for her whenever she asked, drove her places you name it. All in the hopes I'd get her back.

Then I heard she was seeing someone, who happend to be a friend of mine... after raging for a while hahaha I told her not to call me anymore and basically cold turkey'd her out of my life.

SURPRISE!... she started calling ME every day, Facebooking me, etc etc said she wasn't seeing this other dude any mroe and wanted to hang out. So, I broke down and took her out again (I did mention she was a smokin' hot australian chick right?) and then, she totally reverted and was just as uninterested as before in me. really pissed me off. We went through this cycle probably 2-3 more times, and it was a killer on me man. I really liked her and every time I thought I got over it, she was calling me again.

Finally, I said that's enough. No more of this bending over to please someone, or changing what I want in life for them. Since that "lightbulb" moment, I have to say I've never been happier. (this was years ago mind you) but it changed my whole attitude on life in general, and that's no understatement. I apply that philosophy to my career as well. If you have to make changes that you feel make you not you, get out. Your going to have compromises, that's a huge part of relationships. But when it comes to the things that are REALLY important to you, the RIGHT woman will NOT make you compromise it.

Fast forward a few years, I've found myself a beautiful fiancee who has goals of her own, and I support her every step of the way, as she does with me. And I give her all the credit in the world cuz I'm not an easy guy to live with haha. I'm not cranky or anything but I'm very stubborn and don't give up easily, sometimes to my detriment. I have a band, my project truck, the camaro's coming soon, my career is very busy. But I am passionate about all of that stuff, and while she rolls her eyes when I spend money on vehicles, she knows how happy it makes me. (hell she let me keep and rebuild my t56 on the front porch haha talk about luckiest guy in the world) I know it sucks now dude, but the beginning of a relationship is not the time to compromise. I've found that some of the problems stem from not getting to know the person enough to know what their REAL goals and passions are. That's love. Sorry to go all romance novel on you haha but that's really the bottom line. Can you encourage eachothers hopes and dreams? if not, pull the chute man your wasting your time.