Gee, I already thought you were nice, but as my husband would say, "I don't have to live with you"...that being said, I know you have been under more pressure this past year than most people out there...
It seems that when guys are sad or hurting they don't express it the same way as we females do...I think it comes out more as anger and crankiness...(not 'stereotyping', guys)...
Women handle stress much differently than men, so that can cause conflict...
I would recommend finding some way to spend time with JUST THE 2 OF YOU every once in awhile just to 're-connect'...it doesn't have to cost any money, it can just be a walk or better yet, a drive in the Camaro...
Good luck to you, Scott...I pray for your entire family every single day, not just Stephanie, because I feel that the whole family is affected when one person is sick...I will hold good thoughts for you and Kathy...I care!!!