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Originally Posted by wrek
More details. Me and the ex get along OK.
My ex-wife's new husband has gotten into it with Conner a couple times. Once he hit Conner (slapped) in the head and the next day Conner had a bad attitude at school and told the teacher he was being beat. A 3 month investigation ensued. The step-father is going to school to be a teacher, he's in his 3rd year of school so a positive result from protective services would have ruined his career before it even started.
I tell the kid to get off the xbox and go to his room for mouthing off and he replies "No". Well, yes. No, yes, no. You better get to your room. he's like "or what?" great, I got nothing.
He's currently grounded for 6 months for this sort of thing. This is almost as tough on me as it is him because now I have his attitude around all the time. My wife can't stand him anymore... we've been married since Conner was 3.
Look, I know an internet forum isn't where to go for life counseling but I thought I'd share my misery here and see if any of you had similar situations.
I do have a LOT of experience with this. *I* was Conner when I was 14. However, I got my ass kicked one day and I sort of snapped.
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Let me start by saying I have two grown kids, and they are both doing very well.
....... I thought of a million things to say about this, but I'm not going to... But I will tell you this...
Call whatever child services you have in your area and make an appointment to speak with a counselor. Bring your son along. Let the counselor tell you the law, but make it a point to bring up, "Sometimes I feel like my son just needs an old fashioned spanking." They'll "blablabla", then you say, "Yes, but WHEN that fails, what is the LAW in regards to my child and PHYSICAL punishment?" Listen closely, I promise you your son will be.
My son used to pull that DHS garbage on me... I told him, "Call them, or if you want, I'll call them, then they'll call the Sheriff's office, and Kenny (the Sheriff and a good friend) will come out to investigate. After I tell him how you've been acting he's going to tell me to whip you in his presence so he can verify no child abuse was committed." Then I would hand him the phone. He never made the call, I bet yours won't either.