I feel your pain. I was in a similar position when I started looking for my Camaro. I had a few ideas in mind when I was looking. For me it all came down to what I really wanted/needed in the car. Unfortunately I did not find this forum until after I made my purchase but that's ok.
I knew when I was looking I was going to have to go used as new was out of my price range. I also knew that I wanted a Gen6 so that meant 2016 or newer. After much searching I finally found my Camaro 3 months ago.
This is what I got.
2016 1SS M6 Jet Black, Less than 24K Miles when bought, really good deal from a semi-local dealer(60+ miles away), Certified Pre-Owned so still under warranty. No mods yet but I have a few things I will be getting in a couple months, AWE Touring Resonated Cat-Back Exhaust, Roto-Fab CAI, CAGS Eliminator(have need to install). Not going to do much more than this, change some fluids for better performance, wear protection. This is my daily driver and I commute 100 miles round trip 5 days a week.
Don't let the bad things you read on here stop you from getting the Camaro you want.