Final update:
We drove all three. Going in I SO wanted to pick the Toyota, but being honest I was disappointed. Of the three it was the smallest inside and rode the worst. After much discussion, we bought a 2018 Honda CR-V in EX-L trim. It blew me away as the clear best choice. I did my best to be fully objective as the Honda was my THIRD choice going in, so for it to win me over it had to be the best. She makes a nice garage mate for the Camaro though as it’s black with black leather interior.