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For those who a guy and a girl can't be friends, welcome to 2013 I'm a nice guy, grew up a nice guy and had plenty of girl friends I didn't try to bang. I see no reason why a person's gender should influence whether or not I choose to call them friend. Also, 2012... Thanks. If you want to PM me your actual thoughts, wouldn't mind reading regardless of what they are.
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08-29-2013, 09:17 AM | #58 |
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The underlying issue is your wife is not cool with you having a girl for a best friend. She's alright with her standing up for you in the wedding, but she can't go to the bachelor party? That doesn't make sense to me especially because your brother in law and father in law are going to be there. Your fiance is jealous of this girl and is attempting to control the situation.
You said you don't hang out with your best friend alone out of respect for your fiance. Well what kind of best friends can't hang out together, alone. Trust is a huge part of marriage and it doesn't sound like it's there for you two. If she can't accept her as your best friend (outside your marriage because your wife should be your best friend) then you have a tough decision to make as you'll have to pick between these two girls. |
08-29-2013, 09:30 AM | #59 | |
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she also want's to prevent rumors at her own wedding. even if the op and his best friends have no intentions with each other, rumors can fly pretty quickly. preventative maintenance...
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OP may feel like he doesn’t have romantic feelings about his best friend, but how does the best friend feel about him? There have been way to many movies made about this theory. Boys and girls being best friends "doesn't work". In time, he will find out his best friend wanted more, but she didn’t know how to take it further or risk the chance of not having him at all if she admitted it. Bottom line is either he has feelings for her that he won't admit, or she’s waiting for him to express it because she wants more from him. Check back in after a year of being married and let us know how it went, if you actually go through with it.
Good luck OP. This isn’t going to end well for one of these women. |
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08-29-2013, 10:22 AM | #63 |
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The only thing I can't figure out is... If she's worried about the rumors, wouldn't she have nixed her being my best (wo)man? I figure if anything, that'd do it more than her attending the bachelor party.
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here's a question, what's your dad's opinion on the matter? he's throwing the party.
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08-29-2013, 10:44 AM | #65 |
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He thinks she should be allowed to go. Since I've known my friend for years, my parents also know her and her family.
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maybe scratch the bachelor party then. just have a party. lol
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I can solve this whole thing right now. Dead serious. The problem seems to be that the dad is planning the bachelor party and the to be in-laws are attending.
Screw that. Now the OP is in Seattle, a bit far for me, but can some of you Canooks and Left coast members get together and throw him a separate Camaro5 bachelor party that he can bring his best friend to and that has strippers and blow, I mean just strippers. I'll chip in a five spot, let's get this going.
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Made my decision. I told her that I am willing to tell my friend she can't go, but there are conditions:
1) No more ultimatums unless it is for a VERY important issue. Open discussion is the name of the game. 2) We sit down and write a 'Constitution' so to speak, a living document of rules we want to set up for our house and our marriage that outline our obligations and duties to the other, and the things we can and cannot require, reasonably, of the other person. I figure this is a good way to make sure we have something set out that helps both of us to make sure we are on the right track, we can refer to it and amend it as time goes on... but this will help make it fair for both of us. I am still pretty upset by the whole thing, but I can't see another way out of this.
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